Smooches - Blog by Smooches AdminSmooches - Blog by Smooches Adminhttps://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/author/smooches-adminFri, 05 Jun 2026 21:31:15 -0700http://zoho.com/sites/<![CDATA[Dating Apps, Masculine Energy & Modern Love in South Africa]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/dating-apps-masculine-energy-modern-love-in-south-africa

Why Honest Conversations Are Reshaping Online Dating 
​By Felicity Reekan | Love, Dating and Chaos Podcast

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      Honest Dating Starts With Honest Conversations


      Modern dating in South Africa has changed dramatically. Between dating apps, evolving gender roles, and shifting expectations in relationships, singles are navigating a completely different landscape than they did a decade ago.
      In a recent episode of the Love, Dating and Chaos podcast, I sat down with Dr. Lize Naude, co-founder of Smooches, for a candid and surprisingly insightful conversation about honesty in online dating, physical preferences, masculine and feminine energy, and why modern relationships feel more complicated than ever.
      What followed was raw, funny, uncomfortable at times — and incredibly relatable.


      Why Modern Dating Apps Are Asking More Personal Questions


      One of the first things that stood out to me about Smooches was how detailed some of the profile questions are. Unlike traditional dating apps that stick to surface-level bios, Smooches encourages users to be radically honest about preferences, personality, lifestyle, and even physical compatibility.
      According to Lize, the reason is simple:
      “The more honest people are upfront, the less disappointment they experience later.”
      Online dating often creates unrealistic expectations. People form emotional connections through carefully curated photos and vague descriptions, only to discover during the first date that there’s little real compatibility.
      Smooches was designed to reduce that disconnect by encouraging transparency from the start.
      While some questions may feel bold or unconventional, the intention is not shock value — it’s compatibility.

      

    The Truth About Physical Preferences in Dating

    One of the most controversial topics discussed was physical attraction and body preferences.
    Lize explained that attraction is deeply personal, and pretending otherwise often leads to frustration and failed relationships. Some people prioritise emotional compatibility, while others are strongly visual. Both are valid.
    The conversation highlighted an important reality in modern dating:

    Attraction matters — and honesty matters even more.


    Too often, people hide aspects of themselves or avoid difficult conversations out of fear of rejection. But in reality, authenticity tends to create stronger connections.
    The philosophy behind Smooches is straightforward:

        • Be honest about who you are
        • Be honest about what you want
        • Allow people to choose based on real compatibility

    That level of transparency may not appeal to everyone, but it does help avoid misunderstandings and wasted time.


    The Rise of Online Dating in South Africa

    Online dating in South Africa continues to grow rapidly, especially among professionals and mature singles looking for meaningful relationships.
    Interestingly, Lize shared that Smooches has achieved an almost equal balance between male and female users — something many dating platforms struggle with.
    Even older generations are embracing online dating technology, despite initially feeling intimidated by it.
    Digital platforms provide a less pressurised environment for people to connect, especially for those who may find approaching someone in person uncomfortable or intimidating.
    As South Africans become more comfortable with online relationships, apps focused on genuine compatibility rather than casual swiping are gaining traction.


    Masculine and Feminine Energy in Modern Relationships

    One of the most thought-provoking parts of the discussion centred around masculine and feminine energy in dating.
    Many modern women are independent, ambitious, financially secure, and capable of building successful lives on their own. While empowering, this shift has also changed traditional relationship dynamics.
    I asked a question many women secretly wonder:


    Ready to Start With Honesty at the Centre?

    Lize believes the answer is absolutely yes.
    She explained that many women naturally desire emotional safety, stability, leadership, and protection in relationships — even if they are highly successful themselves.
    At the same time, modern men are navigating changing expectations around masculinity. Traditional provider roles are evolving, leaving many unsure of where they fit into relationships today.
    This has created a growing tension in modern dating culture:

        • Women are often encouraged to become more assertive and self-reliant
        • Men are becoming more emotionally open and vulnerable
        • Both genders are still trying to understand their roles in relationships

    The result? Confusion, miscommunication, and emotional disconnect.


    Dating today requires emotional self-awareness.


    Relationships are no longer built purely on survival, financial necessity, or traditional gender expectations. People now seek emotional fulfilment, compatibility, communication, attraction, and shared values — all at once.

    That creates both opportunity and pressure.

    Many singles have become deeply independent after years of living alone, building careers, and creating routines that don’t easily accommodate another person.

    Compromise becomes harder.

    Vulnerability becomes scarier.

    And opening up to love again can feel incredibly uncomfortable.

    Yet despite the chaos, people still crave genuine connection.



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]]>Thu, 21 May 2026 10:26:16 +0000<![CDATA[Stop Swiping, Start Connecting: Intentional Dating Made Simple]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/stop-swiping-start-connecting-intentional-dating-made-simple

Because Real Love Deserves More Than a Swipe

Modern dating can feel fast, superficial, and emotionally draining. Endless swiping, snap judgements, and short-lived conversations often leave singles feeling frustrated and disconnected. If you’re tired of surface-level chats and fleeting matches, intentional dating offers a refreshing alternative.


Intentional dating is about slowing down, being clear on what you want, and building genuine connections that have the potential to last. It’s not about dating more people — it’s about dating better.


What Does It Mean to Date With Intention?

Dating with intention means being mindful about who you connect with and why. Instead of chasing instant chemistry or appearances alone, intentional dating prioritises compatibility, values, communication, and emotional maturity.

It’s a shift from “Who’s available?” to “Who aligns with the life I want to build?”


Meaningful Conversations Over Endless Swiping

Swipe culture encourages quantity over quality. Intentional dating flips that mindset.

Rather than sending quick messages to multiple matches, intentional dating focuses on deeper, more meaningful conversations. These conversations explore important topics such as:

  • Relationship expectations

  • Life goals and values

  • Communication styles

  • Emotional readiness

By having these conversations early, you gain clarity and avoid wasting time on connections that don’t align.


Authentic Connections That Go Beyond Looks

When you date intentionally, you’re not just choosing someone who looks good in photos — you’re choosing someone whose lifestyle, priorities, and character complement your own.

This approach allows you to connect on a deeper level, creating relationships rooted in honesty, respect, and shared direction. It’s dating with heart, not haste.


Less Frustration, More Clarity

Dating without intention can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. Mixed signals, ghosting, and mismatched expectations are common outcomes of rushed connections.

Intentional dating helps you:

  • Filter out mismatches earlier

  • Avoid surface-level interactions

  • Stay focused on what truly matters

The result? Less emotional burnout and more clarity about who is truly right for you.


Building Long-Lasting Relationships

Strong relationships don’t happen by accident — they’re built through understanding, trust, and communication.

When you take the time to genuinely get to know someone, emotional intimacy develops naturally. Intentional dating lays the foundation for long-term relationships by encouraging:

  • Honest communication

  • Mutual respect

  • Shared values

  • Emotional connection

These are the elements that support lasting love, not just short-term attraction.


How Smooches Supports Intentional Dating

Smooches was created for South African singles who want more than casual swiping. It’s a dating platform designed specifically for people who are serious about meaningful, long-term relationships.

Here’s how Smooches helps you date with purpose:

  • Detailed relationship questionnaires that reveal deeper compatibility

  • Verified profiles, so you connect with real, committed people

  • Smart matching based on shared goals, values, and lifestyles

  • A community focused on genuine relationships, not endless swiping

With Smooches, dating becomes more intentional, more authentic, and far more rewarding.


Ready to Stop Swiping and Start Connecting?

If you’re ready to move beyond superficial dating and focus on real connection, intentional dating is the way forward. Join Smooches and start building relationships that align with who you are and where you’re going.

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]]>Thu, 14 May 2026 10:03:51 +0000<![CDATA[The Winning Matchmaking Formula: What Makes Smooches Different]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/the-winning-matchmaking-formula-what-makes-smooches-different

How Smart Matching and Deal-Breakers Create Better Connections

Finding meaningful connections online shouldn’t feel like a guessing game. At Smooches, dating is designed to be intentional, thoughtful, and aligned with who you are and what you want.


Unlike swipe-heavy dating apps that prioritise speed over substance, Smooches uses smart matching and personalised deal-breaker settings to connect you with people who truly share your values, lifestyle, and long-term goals.

Here’s how the Smooches matchmaking formula works — and how you can use it to create better, more meaningful connections.


The Matching Algorithm: More Than Just Swipes

At Smooches, we go beyond surface-level attraction. When you complete our in-depth relationship questionnaire, our matching algorithm looks at more than just photos or location.


It takes into account your interests, values, and personality traits. Instead of pairing you with just anyone, it looks for genuine compatibility.

This means you’re more likely to connect with people who share your outlook on life. Matches are curated for depth, not just proximity or appearance, and the focus is on building meaningful connections right from the start.


Deal-Breakers: Your Personal Boundaries Matter

We know that some things are non-negotiable — and that’s where deal-breakers come in. Whether it’s lifestyle choices, relationship goals, or personal values, Smooches allows you to set clear boundaries that the algorithm respects.


Examples of deal-breakers you can set include:

  • smoking or drinking habits, 
  • religious or cultural alignment, 
  • desire for children, 
  • and long-term versus casual relationship goals.


    • By setting your deal-breakers, you save time, avoid unnecessary mismatches, and focus only on people who truly fit into your vision for the future. Intentional dating starts with knowing what matters most to you.


    Pro Tips for Better Matches on Smooches


    Be honest in your questionnaire. 

    The more authentic you are, the better your matches will reflect who you truly are.

    Set clear deal-breakers. 

    Don’t be afraid to define your must-haves and no-go’s. Clear boundaries make the dating journey smoother and more enjoyable.

    Stay open-minded. 

    While deal-breakers are important, leaving room for flexibility can lead to pleasant surprises. Sometimes, love shows up in unexpected ways.


    By combining smart matching with meaningful deal-breakers, Smooches helps you filter out the noise and focus on people who genuinely matter.


    Start your Smooches journey today — where real connections replace random swipes.

    Join Smooches
    ]]>    Thu, 14 May 2026 10:03:25 +0000    <![CDATA[Searching For Love? Here's Why Smooches Should Be Your First Choice]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/the-winning-matchmaking-formula-what-makes-smooches-different1

    Why Smooches is the Smart Choice for Serious, Lasting Relationships

    Looking for meaningful, long-term relationships online can feel overwhelming with so many dating platforms available. Smooches stands out as the premier choice for singles serious about finding genuine love. Here’s why Smooches should be your go-to platform for online dating.


    Designed for Serious Relationships

    Smooches is thoughtfully built for singles who are seeking lasting love. By prioritizing compatibility through shared core values, aligned relationship goals, and personal preferences, Smooches helps lay the foundation for genuine, long-term relationships. Instead of focusing on superficial matches, the platform emphasizes what truly matters.


    In-Depth Compatibility Matching

    Finding the right match shouldn’t be a guessing game. Smooches uses a detailed pre-application questionnaire to evaluate personality, lifestyle, and relationship priorities. This ensures that every potential match aligns with your goals, increasing the likelihood of meaningful connections.


    Enhanced Security and Privacy

    Your safety and privacy are top priorities at Smooches. The platform employs a robust verification process, including identity checks and online meetings, to ensure that users are genuine. Advanced encryption safeguards your information, and profiles are visible only to verified matches, giving you peace of mind while connecting.


    User-Centric Design

    Smooches is built with the user experience in mind. Its intuitive, user-friendly interface makes navigating the platform easy, allowing you to focus on what matters most: connecting with compatible singles. The streamlined design eliminates distractions and ensures a smooth, enjoyable dating experience.


    Spotlighted by FAIRLADY Magazine

    FAIRLADY magazine calls Smooches a game-changer for serious daters. Experts praise the platform for its focus on compatibility, safety, and meaningful interactions. Smooches proves that dating apps can be about more than surface-level attraction—they can create lasting love stories.


    Ready to Find Your Match?

    Join Smooches today and experience a dating platform built on trust, compatibility, and genuine connection. Stop swiping aimlessly and start building meaningful relationships.

    Join Smooches
    ]]>    Thu, 14 May 2026 10:03:00 +0000    <![CDATA[The Conversation Most People Have Too Late — And How Smooches Changes That]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/the-conversation-most-people-have-too-late-—-and-how-smooches-changes-that1

    The strongest relationships start with honest conversations.

        The Conversation Most People Have Too Late - And How Smooches Changes That


        Most relationships don't fail because of a lack of attraction.

        They fail because important conversations happen too late.


        Questions around lifestyle, values, children, religion, boundaries and long-term compatibility are often avoided in the beginning - only to become major issues later on.


        At Smooches, we believe honesty should happen from the start.  That's why compatibility isn't based on swipes or appearances, but on the things that truly shape a relationship.


        How Smooches Compatibility Matching Works


        By the time a match reaches you on Smooches, it has already passed through the qualities and boundaries you identified as important.

        During onboarding, members can mark specific profile answers as deal-breakers — a clear indication that something is a non-negotiable boundary, not simply a preference.


        If either person activates a deal-breaker, that match is removed entirely.


        • No partial scoring.
        • No pressure to compromise.
        • No being pushed toward someone who fundamentally doesn’t align with your values.


      The Deal-Breakers That Matter Most

      At Smooches, compatibility goes deeper than appearance. Members focus on the real-life factors that determine whether a relationship can genuinely work long-term.

      Some of the Most Common Deal-Breakers Include:

      Smoking
      Currently the most commonly activated deal-breaker on the platform.

      Religion & Shared Values
      Faith, spiritual beliefs, and religious practices often shape daily life and future decisions.

      Children & Family Goals
      Whether someone already has children or wants them in the future can significantly impact compatibility.

      Open vs Exclusive Relationships
      Agreement on commitment and relationship structure is essential for emotional security and trust.

      Lifestyle Habits
      From health routines to social preferences, lifestyle compatibility matters more than people realise.

      Dogs Sleeping on the Bed
      Because sometimes the smallest habits become the biggest daily frustrations — or comforts.

      Interestingly, distance is rarely selected as a hard deal-breaker. People understand that geography can change. But values, habits, and core relationship goals are part of everyday life.


      Your Profile Can Evolve

      What feels non-negotiable at one stage of life may shift over time.

      Smooches allows members to revisit and update their profile answers and deal-breakers whenever needed.

      One important thing to know:
      Profile resets carry a fee of R500, as Smooches rebuilds your entire compatibility logic when significant answers change.

      That’s why taking your time during onboarding matters. Your answers shape every match you receive.


      Why Honest Dating Leads to Better Relationships

      The strongest relationships are built on clarity, honesty, and shared values from the beginning.

      Instead of wasting time navigating confusion, Smooches helps members connect through genuine compatibility — while protecting privacy and personal security throughout the process.


      Ready to Start With Honesty at the Centre?

      Find meaningful connections based on who you really are — not just what you look like.

      Join Smooches today and discover compatibility-driven dating designed for people who value real relationships.


    Join Smooches
    ]]>    Thu, 14 May 2026 10:02:30 +0000    <![CDATA[Forget Red Flags. Find The Green Ones. Discover a Truly Compatible Partner]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/forget-red-flags.-find-the-green-ones.-discover-a-truly-compatible-partner

    Shift your focus from avoiding wrong to choosing right.

    When it comes to dating, too much focus is placed on avoiding red flags. But meaningful, lasting relationships aren’t built on fear — they’re built on recognising the right signs from the start.

    At Smooches, we believe in focusing on the green flags in relationships — the qualities that signal real compatibility, emotional connection, and long-term potential.


    The Green Flags That Actually Matter

    Consistency
    They show up — not just once, but every time. Real interest doesn’t need reminders or chasing. Consistency is one of the strongest signs of a healthy relationship.

    Emotional Maturity
    They take responsibility for their actions, communicate openly, and don’t play games. You feel safe, respected, and free to be yourself.

    Shared Goals
    You want the same things in life. Whether it’s lifestyle, values, or future plans, shared direction turns attraction into something meaningful and lasting.

    Respectful Communication
    They listen as much as they speak. You feel heard, understood, and never left wondering where you stand.


    Why Compatibility Matters More Than Chemistry

    While attraction may spark interest, relationship compatibility is what sustains it. When your values, habits, and goals align, relationships feel easier, more natural, and far less confusing.


    That’s why recognising green flags early is key to building a relationship that truly works.


    What Makes Smooches Different?

    Most dating apps focus on appearance and quick swipes. Smooches is different — we focus on meaningful connections and compatibility-based dating.


    It Starts With You
    Define who you are, what you value, and what you’re looking for in a partner.

    Compatibility First
    From daily habits to long-term goals, every detail matters — even the little things, like whether your dog sleeps on the bed.

    No Swiping on Looks
    Photos are only revealed once compatibility has been confirmed, helping you focus on what truly matters.

    Private & Protected
    Your identity and personal information remain secure at all times. Smooches is built around safety and trust — no exceptions.


    The Truth About Healthy Relationships

    The right relationship won’t feel confusing or uncertain.
    It will feel consistent, respectful, and aligned from the very beginning.

    That’s what recognising a green flag feels like.


    Ready to Find the Right Connection?

    Forget the red flags.
    Meet someone who truly understands you.

    Join Smooches today and connect with real, verified singles who are serious about meaningful relationships.


    Join Smooches
    ]]>    Mon, 30 Mar 2026 10:56:13 +0000    <![CDATA[Smooches In FAIRLADY: A Spotlight On Love Beyond The Superficial]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/smooches-in-fairlady-a-spotlight-on-love-beyond-the-superficialDiscover how Smooches is changing the game in online dating! Featured in FAIRLADY magazine, this innovative platform goes beyond swipes to create meaningful connections.]]>

    Featured in the FAIRLADY magazine, Smooches is gaining recognition for its innovative approach to modern dating. Founded by Ruahan Naudé and Dr Lize Naudé, this platform goes beyond swiping, offering a meaningful space for genuine connections.

    Addressing Loneliness And The Quest For Love

    Despite being more connected than ever, many people experience deep loneliness. The demands of modern life, combined with the isolating aspects of digital communication, have left countless individuals longing for genuine companionship. Recognising this, Ruahan and Lize set out to create a space where singles could find not just dates, but meaningful relationships rooted in shared values and mutual understanding. Their mission was simple yet profound: to combat loneliness by offering a safe, reliable way to connect.

    Ensuring High-Compatibility Matches

    At the heart of Smooches lies a comprehensive questionnaire and a sophisticated matching algorithm. The questionnaire goes beyond surface-level preferences, diving into users’ personalities, values, and relationship goals. By anaylsing this information, the algorithm identifies matches with a high likelihood of compatibility.

    A Questionnaire Unlike Any Other
    • In-Depth Questions: The questionnaire explores key aspects such as long-term aspirations, personality traits and interests.
    • Tailored Matching: Answers provided assist in the matching process, ensuring users are paired based on meaningful criteria rather than just appearances.
    • User-Friendly Experience: The questionnaire is designed to be easy to understand and navigate, which minimises frustration and encourages users to answer questions truthfully. 
    Your Safety, Our Priority

    We ensure a secure environment for meaningful connections with rigorous verification step, including:

    • ID Checks: This vital step ensures each profile belongs to a real person.
    • Online Meeting: Each user undergoes an online verification meeting with a Smooches consultant to confirm that they are who they say they are, and to weed out anybody that may not have genuine intentions.
    Privacy Guaranteed

    Only after completing the questionnaire and verification process, will users be able to view the profiles of compatible matches, which means users are not exposed to everybody on the platform, unlike swipe-based apps where profiles are publicly accessible.

    Building A Community Of Love And Trust

    Being featured in FAIRLADY magazine highlights Smooches’ commitment to fostering genuine relationships. By addressing loneliness, leveraging innovative technology, and prioritising user safety, we’ve redefined online dating with care and integrity.

    Read Article

    '' We're seeing 30 to 50 new registrations daily, with over 4000 users already part of the Smooches community. ''

    Ready To Experience A New Approach To Online Dating Applications?

    Whether you're seeking companionship, love, or something more profound, Smooches offers a trusted space to begin your journey. Join today and take the first step toward finding a connection that lasts.

    Join Smooches
    ]]>    Tue, 14 Jan 2025 07:37:33 +0000    <![CDATA[Featured in the Saturday Star Print Article: Smooches is Transforming Online Dating in South Africa]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/Featured-in-the-Saturday-Star-Print-Article-Smooches-is-Transforming-Online-Dating-in-South-AfricaSmooches is changing online dating in South Africa by focusing on serious relationships, compatibility, and security. Featured in the Saturday Star, Smooches offers a detailed pre-application process and rigorous verification, making it a standout choice for those seeking genuine connections.]]>

    In the crowded landscape of online dating, where fleeting connections and superficial swipes often dominate, Smooches is making waves by offering a fresh approach. Recently featured in the Saturday Star, this new online dating platform is poised to change the way South Africans find love. Here's why Smooches is capturing attention and setting new standards in the online dating world.

    Saturday Star highlights Smooches unique approach to online dating
    A Platform Designed for Serious Relationships
    One of the key takeaways from the Saturday Star article is that Smooches isn't just another dating app—it's a platform built for those genuinely seeking long-term relationships. Co-created by professionals, including relationship expert Dr. Lize Naude, Smooches focuses on compatibility rather than superficial traits. The cornerstone of this approach is a comprehensive 200-question pre-application process designed to delve deep into essential aspects like family values, relationship goals, and personal preferences. By prioritising these core values, Smooches ensures that users are matched with like-minded individuals from the start.

    Trust and Security: The Heart of Smooches    

    Safety and privacy are paramount on the Smooches dating platform. As highlighted in the Saturday Star, Smooches goes beyond the usual to protect its users to ensure secure online dating and privacy in online dating. The platform employs a rigorous identity verification process that includes online meetings, video introductions, and secure profile photo checks. What’s more, user profiles and photos remain private and are only visible to verified matches, offering a level of security and discretion that’s often lacking in other dating platforms.

    Why Smooches Stands Out  

    Smooches is not just about finding love—it's about finding the right love. By prioritising depth, substance, and security, Smooches differentiates itself in a market saturated with quick, casual connections. Whether you're outlining your ideal partner through the detailed pre-application process or benefiting from the platform's robust security features, Smooches makes the search for a serious relationship both enjoyable and effective.

    Join the Revolution                                                                

    As Smooches continues to revolutionise the online dating scene in South Africa, its feature in the Saturday Star underscores the platform's mission: to bring serious daters together in a safe, secure, and meaningful way. If you're tired of the same old dating apps and ready for something more substantial, Smooches could be the game-changer you've been waiting for.

    Ready to find your true match? Explore Smooches today and experience a dating platform built on trust, security, and meaningful connections.
    Join Smooches
    Download Saturday Star Print Article
    ]]>    Wed, 21 Aug 2024 11:38:16 +0000    <![CDATA[Smooches Featured in Joburg Style Article]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/Smooches-Featured-in-Joburg-Style-ArticleSmooches is redefining online dating by focusing on genuine, meaningful connections. Recently featured in Joburg Style, the platform offers an approach that prioritises depth, compatibility, and security, moving away from the quick, surface-level matches of traditional dating apps.]]>

    In an era where online dating often feels like a numbers game, Smooches is stepping in to change the narrative. Recently featured in a Joburg Style article, Smooches is setting a new standard for finding genuine connections in South Africa.

    A successful Smooches match
    Smooches Takes the Spotlight, With A New Era for Online Dating in South Africa
    The Joburg Style article highlights how Smooches is not only meeting but exceeding expectations by focusing on the essentials of what makes relationships successful. The platform’s commitment to depth and security is more than just a feature—it’s a reflection of a broader vision to redefine online dating. For Smooches, this means going beyond the surface level and focusing on what truly matters to users.

    The online dating platform in South Africa has long been dominated by platforms promising quick connections. This is why Smooches was designed to fulfil an essential need in the online dating market: meaningful relationships. By offering a comprehensive approach that prioritises depth and compatibility, Smooches ensures that users are not just swiping through profiles but are engaging in a process that genuinely matches their values and desires.

    What Sets Smooches Apart?  

    Smooches isn’t just another dating app—it’s a platform built with the user's experience at the forefront. Here’s how Smooches makes a difference to online dating in South Africa:

    1. Depth Over Quantity: Smooches dives deep into understanding each user’s personality and relationship goals. This isn’t about quick fixes or superficial matches; it’s about meaningful connections that last. 


    2. Enhanced Security: In an age where online safety is crucial, Smooches stands out with its rigorous verification processes. Users can rest assured knowing they are interacting with verified, genuine individuals.


    3. User-Centric Design: The platform is designed to be intuitive and user-friendly, ensuring that every interaction—from initial sign-up to finding a match—is as smooth as possible. 

    Read the full Joburg Style article to discover in more detail how Smooches online dating is transforming the world of online dating.
    Read Article

    Your Next Step 

    If you’re ready to experience a new approach to online dating applications, Smooches invites you to explore its innovative platform. Discover how it can help you find a connection that goes beyond the surface.
    Join Smooches
    ]]>    Tue, 20 Aug 2024 08:49:21 +0000    <![CDATA[Klankkoerant Bylaag Radio Onderhoud: Navigeer Verhoudings met Dr. Lize Naudé]]>https://www.smooches.co.za/blogs/post/klankkoerant-bylaag-radio-interview-navigeer-verhoudings-met-dr.-lize-naudéDr. Lize Naudé, sielkundige, bespreek liefde se uitdagings in vandag se besige wêreld en beklemtoon sosiale media se impak en die behoefte aan kommunikasie. Sy het Smooches geskep, 'n dating-app wat versoenbaarheid en veiligheid beklemtoon.]]>
    Dr Naude interview with Esmarie Yssel

    Navigeer verhoudings: Insigte van Dr Lize Naudé

    Esmarie: Liefde word vir vrouens van kleins af verpak as 'n idilliese gebeurtenis, waar die ridder op die wit perd jou van jou voete afvee en jou lewe kom ophelder soos 'n prinses in 'n sprokiesverhaal. Maar die liefde is in der waarheid 'n werkwood en beginsel van opoffering. Dis elke dag 'n keuse om een persoon vir die res van jou lewe lief te he. Vanoggend gesels ons oor verhoudings en hoe om dinge reg te maak wanneer kanse verspeel is.

    Doktor Lize Naude is 'n sielkundige met privaat praktyke in Northcliff en Kyalami in Gauteng. Sluit nou by ons aan, Doktor, goeie more, gaan dit goed?

    Doktor Naude: Goeie more Esmarie en luisteraars, gelukkige Valentynsdag!

    Esmarie: Gelukkige Valentynsdag, ek hoop Doktor het ook rooi aan vandag!

    Doktor Naude: Verseker!

    Esmarie: Doktor, kom ons gesels oor die ander kant van die liefde. Doktor werk nou ongelukkig met paartjies of mense wat deur trauma is. Hoe gaan dit met ons romantiese verhoudings?

    Doktor Naude: Wel Esmerie, ek dink baie moelik. En ek dink die rede daarvoor is dat liefde T Y D gespel word,  met ander woorde "tyd" en min mense vandag beskik oor daardie kommoditeit, want die lewe word al hoe duurder, mense werk al hoe harder, mense is onder geweldige druk by die werk en het finansiële druk. Vrouens is onder druk om te help om die huishouding aan die gang te hou en dan is daar ook die kinders wat prioriteit geniet en vannaand waneer alles uitendelik rustig raak, is daar bitter min energie oor vir mekaar, wat nog te se vir romantiese energie.

    Esmarie: Nee absoluut, en ek wil nou net daarby uitgekom het...Doktor het nou 'n paar dinge genoem wat daartoe kan lei dat verhoudings kan skeefloop. 

    Jy kan hier na die onderhoud luister! 

    Sosiale media se impak op verhoudings

    Esmarie: Is ons in 'n tyd waarin dit te maklik is om die handdoek in te gooi?

    Doktor Naude: Weet jy, ek glo dit lyk net asof die handdoek makliker ingegooi word, omdat vrouens vandag meer opsies het as vroeër jare. Destyds het vrouens baie keer in toksiese verhoudings of huwelike gebly, jy weet vir finansiële redes, maar baie vrouens kan vandag na hulleself omsien. Die samelewing veroordeel ook minder teenoor egskeiding as jare gelede.

     

    Esmarie: Maar word die leifde nie aan veel meer uitdagings onderwerp met goed soos sosiale media nie? Ek kan dink dis nie noodwendig voordelig vir 'n verhouding nie?

     

    Doktor Naude: Ja, dit het nogal 'n groot effek, want wanneer dit kom by om jou maat te vertrou, kan sosiale media definitief 'n uitdaging inhou. Indien jou maat byvoorbeeld al die fiksheidmodelle volg en hulle bikini fotos "like", mag dit vir jou moelik wees en baie onseker laat voel. Indien jou maat ou vlamme op Facebook en Instagram raakloop en weer gesprekke aanknoop, gebeur dit baie keer dat buite egtelike verhoudings, of as jy nie getroud is nie, net 'n verhouding buite julle verhouding met hierdie ou vlamme aangeknoop word. Maar daar is ook 'n positiewe kant wat ons nie moet vergeet nie, en ek vind dit baie by die jonger geslag. Waneer jou maat jou fotos of julle fotos pos op sosiale media en met jou en julle saam spog, en julle as 'n eenheid vir die wereld afwys, kan dit jou baie spesiaal en gekoester laat voel.

     

    Esmarie: Ja absoluut, en Valentynsdag is nou hier en ek hoop ons sien 'n oorvloed van fotos van mense wat hulle liefde op sosiale media deel.

    Trauma na ernstige verhoudings

    Esmarie: Doktor, wanneer verhoudings skeef loop, en dit gaan gepaard met trauma...met watter tipe gevalle het jy meestal te make?

     

    Doktor Naude: Wel, ek deel met die gapende wonde van my kliënte indien daar 'n derde persoon by die verhouding of by die huwelik betrokke is of was. Gevoelens van geweldige mislukking, gevoelens van nie goed genoeg wees nie, baie woede of verpletterende selfvertroue en selfbeeld, skuldgevoelens, en dan die onvermoë om weer te vertrou na 'n verhouding.

     

    Esmarie: Dis nou waar ons wil uitkom. Wat as dinge skeefloop? Kan twee mense mekaar onder die meeste omstandighede weer vind? Of moet ek dit anders stel en vra of die persoon wat seer gekry het hom of haar self weer kan vind?

     

    Doktor Naude: Ek gaan begin deur hierdie te sê, verhoudings moet konsekwent aan gewerk word...wat eintlik net beteken dat ons verhouding met ons maat voordurend ons prioriteit moet wees. Dit beteken dat tyd vir en met mekaar, kommunikasie en die vervulling van mekaar se behoeftes en die praat van mekaar se liefdestaal, verskriklik belangrik is. Maar ongelukkig gebeur die lewe en ons kom nie noodwendig daarby uit nie, en ons prioritiseer dit nie. Maar hoe gouer 'n mens agterkom dat ‘n mens uit mekaar uit dryf, en weer op mekaar herfokus, hoe groter is die kans vir herstel. Maar sommige paartjies dryf uit mekaar uit. Hulle fokus die hele tyd op ander goed, en wanneer hulle hulle oë uitvee, is daar hierdie gaping en geen konneksie nie. 'n Derde persoon kom in die prentjie of geweldige konflik onstaan, omdat mekaar se behoeftes nie vervul word nie. Maar die punt is, hoe meer water onder deur die brug deurloop, hoe moeiliker is dit vir 'n verhouding om te herstel. Wanneer jy sit met die pyn van ‘n verhouding wat verbrokkel is, wat verby is, en jy sit met al die wonde wat ek van gepraat het, dan is daar verseker steeds hoop, en dit is waarmee ek elke dag werk. Ek het spesifieke trauma tegnieke waarmee ek werk, en jy kan herstel. Daar is weer lewe en sielkundige herstel en emosionele gesondheid na 'n verhouding, 'n ernstige verhouding wat wel verbrokkel het. So ja, ek wil vir die luisteraars hoop gee. As jy sit met daardie pyn van ‘n verhouding wat verbrokkel het, gaan soek vir hulp. Daar is hulp beskikbaar en daar is hoop.

     

    Esmarie: Absoluut, nou weet ek ook die liefde is vir menigte nie beskore nie. Mens aanvaar dit baie maklik as vanselfsprekend wanneer jy jou beste maatjie gekry het en jou verhouding werk en jy is gelukkig in die huwelik. Maar hoe waak mens daarteen dat alleenheid in depressie omskakel, en hoe kan daardie individu vreugde vind? 

    Vriendskap is ook 'n form van 'n verhouding 

    Doktor Naude: Jy weet, na my mening het selfs die grootste introvert die behoefte aan ten minste een betekenisvolle verhouding, en daardie verhouding hoef nie noodwendig 'n romantiese verhouding te wees nie. Dit kan net ‘n vriend of ‘n vriendin wees. Ons wil net weet daar is iemand wat ons sien vir wie ons is en ons hoor, ons bestaan bevestig. Mens vind baie keer dat mense wat nie romantiese maats het nie, se vriendskappe gewoonlik baie meer intiem is as mense wat wel in romantiese verhoudings is. So vir daardie mense, fokus op vriendskappe en as jy nie daardie vriendskappe het nie, gaan uit na plekke toe waar jy wel daardie vriende kan ontmoet. Of dit nou by die kerk is of by die werk. Of as iemand jou nooi na ‘n plek toe, gaan en soek daardie persoon met wie jy kan relate, of dit nou romanties is of nie. Net sodat iemand jou kan sien en hoor.

    Esmarie: Vind jou sirkel. Kry daardie sirkel mense wat jou verstaan en waar jy voel jy behoort. Dan is jou hele lewe sommer voller as jy daardie groepie mense het. Al is daar net een of twee soos wat jy sê, mense hoef nie hordes vriende te hê nie. Op sosiale media lyk dit altyd of mense omring is deur derduisende vriende, maar dan is daar net 'n klein handjie vol mense wat regtig daardie mense se harte ken en dit is waarna 'n mens regtig soek in die lewe. Vir daardie doelgerigtheid soos wat Doktor nou sê. Nou weet ek afspraaktoepassings is daar. Dit is daar vir baie mense, maar baie mense sê dit is riskant, want jy weet nie wie kry jy nie en mense is baie versigtig, maar toe gaan doktor en ontwikkel ‘n afspraaktoepassing. Waarom? Vertel ons meer?

    Hoe Dr Naude Smooches se platform geskep het 

    Doktor Naude: Wel Esmarie, ek glo alleenheid is die siekte van ons tyd en daarom het ek 'n platform geskep met die naam "Smooches" waar mense mekaar kan ontmoet met die intensie om ernstige verhoudings aan te knoop. Die algoritme van Smooches is gebaseer op die belyning van "wie is ek?" met "wat wil ek hê?" Hierdie inligting word verkry deur 'n omvattende vraelys wat ek ontwerp het wat deurslaggewende aspekte van versoenbaarheid meet, insluitend persoonlikheid, fisiese voorkoms, seksualiteit, gewoontes, belangstellings, lewenstyl, gunsteling aktiwiteite en dit onderskei Smooches van ander afspraaktoespassings aangesien meeste van hulle slegs op voorkoms en persoonlikheid fokus. Maar nie Smooches nie.

    Esmarie: Hierdie het diepte en daai “Smooches”, die versoenbaarheid.

     

    Doktor Naude: Absoluut, en die feit dat Smooches se grootse waardes integriteit en deursigtigheid is, asook die veiligheid van ons lede. So daarom, voordat iemand toegang het tot die platform, moet hulle 'n 10 minute aanlyn verifikasie proses ondergaan waar 'n Smooches konsultant hulle vooraf opgelaaide ID-dokument, fotos en 'n kort video van hulle self verifieer om seker te maak dat jy regtig is wie jy sê jy is en dat jy lyk soos wat jy op jou fotos lyk - sodat al die skelm goed wat gebeur op ander toepassings uit die weg geruim word.

     

    En verder, om veiligheid en privaatheid te verseker, kan lede se profiele slegs gesien word deur ander vooraf geverifeerde lede met wie hulle suksesvol kan “match”. So, jou profiel is nie vir almal sigbaar nie. En daar is ook geen “swiep” regs of “swiep” links aksie gebaseer op fisiese voorkoms nie. En wat ons ook onderskei is dat daar ‘n private gesels platform op Smooches is.

     

    So jy gebruik jou skuilnaam totdat jy besluit om jou kontak besonderhede vir die ander persoon te gee.

     

    Esmarie: Dit is wonderlik en dit is deel van die dinge wat doktor sê, daar is nog hoop. En as ‘n mens van so ‘n platform gebruik maak, is daar regtig nog ‘n kans vir jou om iemand te vind wat vir jou diepte in jou lewe gaan bring en nie oppervlakkig gaan beoordeel op grond van hoe jy lyk nie, maak nie saak hoe oud of jonk jy is nie. En ek dink dis baie belangrik om te weet. Ek weet nie hoe dit werk nie, maar daar gaan nie ‘n regs “swiep” wees as iemand nie hou van wat hulle sien nie, of is dit ‘n links “swiep”? Ek is nie nou seker nie.

     

    Doktor Naude: Ek ook nie!

     

    Esmarie: Dit is goed dat ons nie weet nie. Jy wil nie voel iemand oordeel jou op grond van hoe jy lyk nie, want daar is regtig baie meer aan 'n mens as hoe jy uiterlik vertoon, want die mooi vergaan maar die deug bly staan en dis waarop mense moet fokus.

    Afsluiting

    Esmarie: Doktor, ek is sommer opgewonde op hierdie Valentynsdag. Baie dankie vir die wonderlike gesprek. Ons maak weer so in die toekoms.

     

    Doktor Naude: Dankie Esmarie! Mense kan gaan kyk op ons webtuiste  -  smooches.co.za  - vir meer inligting oor hierdie toepassing. Baie dankie. 
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